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Critical Condition

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I had finally had enough. 

 

I went on the Internet to find some suicide advice and there it was.  My migraine medication at twenty pills was considered a lethal dose and I was off to the pharmacy to refill my last 75 pills…or so I thought.

 

My mind was clear and my heart was sure.  I had really tried to make the best out of what I was given in life, but some of us are just born bad and I felt that God’s cruel joke should finally come to an end.   I picked up a 6 pack of Budweiser’s to swallow my pills since my refrigerator only contained 4-5 ketchup packets from McDonald’s that were there long  before I moved in.

 

The pills were hard to get down in such abundance, so at 65 and two Buds, I felt I could stop without consequence and for a moment after they were consumed I had the urge to force myself to vomit, but the thought quickly passed and I laid down on the couch and said goodbye to my precious kitties.  The ex came by every Friday to play with them which is why I picked Thursday.  I wanted to make sure the pills had enough time to work their magic and ensure that the cats were well taken care of.   He always did say that he could provide a better home and now he would have the chance.

 

I thought that I would feel sad but my heart was content.  I was sick and tired of being sick and tired and I was finally doing something about it.  My attempts in the past were weak and futile, this one was for real and there was no possible way I could survive.  I waited for my sedatives to kick in and within 20 minutes I was unconscious.  I remember being suprised at how quickly I was getting tired and then….darkness.

 

I was proud. 

 

I woke up a few days later, bruised and battered and completely disappointed.  How could this have happened?  My entire life had been full of failures and this was the one thing that I was sure I would get right. 

 

How could this be?

 

It was a Thursday and my isolated lifestyle had ensured that there would be no suprise visitors.  

 

The next guest arrival would not be until Friday. 

 

Did my visitor come early? 

 

DId I take the wrong pills? 

 

Did I really take 65? 

 

What was going on and why was I here in the hospital with bruises on my body and a 24 hour nurse by my bedside?

 

And then the doctor came.

 

He explained to me how there was no rhyme or reason for me to be alive.  He told me that I should be dead and then he looked at me with pity and asked me how such a beautiful young woman with everything going for her would want to do this to herself.   I wanted to spit at him.  Who was he to judge me?  He knew nothing about my life and I have spent half of it pretending that I am someone I’m am not and this man was going to seriously try to convince me that I was lucky to be alive. 

 

I have heard this for years.  Everytime I hit a new low in life, someone comes out with some idiotic point of view that that always starts off the same.  “How could someone so beautiful”

 

WTF?

 

Since when does someone’s appearance determine their happiness and if I were the ugliest human being on the planet would it then be ok to be so screwed up and commit suicide?  As I wondered how this man was able to think that his advice was something I seriously cared for he said something that took me by suprise.

 

The doctor explained to me that during my period of unconsciousness I was calling out for my brother.

 

And chills went up and down my body.

 

I remember looking for Billy in what seemed like a hospital but with no other people or objects.  I remember wandering through the never ending hallway calling for him and asking him to take me to heaven but I couldn’t find him.  I just kept walking and walking with nothing in sight.  I was confused.  Why wouldn’t Billy come and get me?  I felt betrayed.  I wondered why he did not want to protect his little sister and take her to a better place.

 

And then it occured to me.

 

Billy would not let me die.

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Written by Tiffany Sams

October 16, 2008 at 3:06 pm

FAMILY TREE

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Imagine…

 

Always having to skip over the family history section of every medical form.

 

Not knowing about your ancestry or where you came from.

 

Never really knowing if your parents were married.

 

Not knowing the names of your Grandparents.

 

Knowing that you have a half sister out there and wondering is she ever thought about you.

 

Making the dreaded family tree in elementary school.

 

I feel that if this still is a practice in school today, it should be stopped immediately.  This was utter torture for me every single time that I had to do it   The feeling of embarrassment and humiliation that I felt when I didn’t have names to put in the little boxes of my cut out tree was overwhelming.    I hated my self.  I hated all of the relatives that felt it would be easier to pretend I didn’t exist.  I hated the way my teachers fumbled over their words as they tried to assure me that it was okay that I only had four other names to put in the boxes.

 

But most of all, I hated the day that my father told me at my brothers funereal that  I had “to understand Tiffany, your mother was crazy and I just couldn’t deal with her, but now you are an adult and I would love to get to know you”.  My father asked me to dinner for our fifth possibly sixth “dinner” together. 

 

I was 28 years old.

 

The man who only called every few years when his father was in the States because he needed to trick my grandfather into thinking he saw his kids suddenly wanted to “get to know me”.

 

I never hated my father until this day.  I had a void there before.  I always wondered why it was that I felt so indifferent or why my blood ran so cold that I didn’t have love or hate towards him.  I wanted to hate this man for my entile life and I really tried but I just couldn’t.  I had always imagined that it was the beast who wouldn’t let him see me.  For years I gave him every excuse I could  think of to give myself the gift of thinking that someone out there may have wanted me.

 

I was never sure if it was true but there was always the possiblity.  I didn’t know what his side was and didn’t want to.  I never asked and was perfectly pleased with keeping things the way they were. 

 

But now he just threw it out there.  BOOM!

 

He knew the beast was crazy and he left his children there alone and defenseless.  And now, the only other person in my whole life who ever really knew what I went through was gone.

 

AND I HAD TO UNDERSTAND? 

 

No! 

 

I will never understand how a man can know that his children are in the hands of a monster and just choose to walk away.   I can not undersatnd how Billy and I suffered years of torment merely because my father couldn’t handle the beast.

 

 I went homeless.

 

I went hungry.

 

I went into addiction. 

 

I went to college.

 

I worked hard.

 

I managed to keep a smile on my face every single day so that everyone would think I was happy while I was dying on the inside.

 

AND I HAD TO UNDERSTAND?

 

No!

 

Understand that my father is an immature selfish man who can not handle his responsibilities?

 

Understand how my father hurts people when he doesn’t even know that he is doing it?

 

Understnad how my father could possibly think that I could understand this?

 

I did understand.

I am my father.  

And I hate him for it.

 

I have never been the same since this day. 

 

It was the day I had to bury my brother and the day my father broke my heart. 

 

It was the first day since I was 15 that I really cried and I couldn’t stop. 

 

It was the day I decided to destroy my life with addiction. 

 

It started with my brother’s cancer pills that were left behind.

 

Written by Tiffany Sams

October 8, 2008 at 12:55 am